Simple Advice

 I received a message asking for advice...

" Dear MyRaven, 

    I am currently in a situation where I don't know what to do... My husband is never home and when he is, he is not interested in anything involving the family. I am afraid he is having an affair... What should I do? I know my daughter loves her daddy, but he doesn't seem concerned with her. I appreciate your advice. 

Sincerely, Heartbroken B.R"

Dear Heartbroken B.R,

    Remember one thing, your daughter deserves better. You have to do what is best for your daughter and for you. If you have tried talking to him and nothing has changed, and you seriously feel that this is a situation that isn't going to change, then you need to take action. Tell him that things have to change and he needs to be more attentive to your daughter and be the daddy she needs. Then let him know you need your husband in your life. If this still doesn't change anything, then you may consider the alternative, and that is to leave. You and your daughter deserve to have someone that loves and cares for you and is an active participant in family life. Absentee parents that live in the same home cause more harm to a child's life than good. Where if you and he part ways and live separately, the child is often upset in the beginning, but will soon adjust and often excel in life because they have seen how strong one parent can be. 

So just remember, you and your daughter deserve a life filled with love and happiness, so that should be your goal. Focus on the future and what you need to do to achieve that goal. 

Best wishes to you and hugs for you both!

Yours Truly,

 MyRaven

Welcome to MyRavenSays

 Welcome to my site. 

Here you will find advice given on email requests, random quotes, and personal blog posts. 

Life often throws things at us that make no sense, we as humans naturally try and rationalize what is the reason and what we can do about it. That is just our nature, sometimes we need to deal with the reality, that things beyond our control happen and we just need to deal with them. 

Learning to deal with life as it comes is something that society today has trouble with. They feel they are in complete control of everything, so when the bad befalls them, they become angry and can't think through what needs to be done to make it through.

I say this simply because I have and am dealing with life's issues that often feel intolerable. I  have no family to lean on, but I do have some amazing friends who help as much as they can. To them I can never say thank you enough.

With all of this said, I just wanted to start my own space where I can voice my thoughts and feelings, share the emails and messages I receive, and the advice I give to those who ask. I pride myself on not reacting emotionally and being rational in my thoughts. I try to be helpful and supportive to my friends and others in need. 

So if anyone reading this has a question or needs advice, please feel free to ask. I will do all I can to help.

With that said, learn to love yourself and others.